Saturday, January 30, 2010

Come, Let Us Reason Together

Watching the meeting yesterday of President Obama and the U.S House of Representatives Republican Caucus threw me back 35 years ago to a kitchen table homily my father gave us at dinner one night.

Our family generally had two topics of discussion at the dinner table - religion and politics. These discussions were often contentious to say the least. However, we were steeped in biblical history and baptized in U.S. political history.

I have no idea what the discussion was about that night. Vietnam? Civil rights? Riots? Draft card burnings?

Dad reminded us that once when Abraham Lincoln was in the midst of a particularly contentious cabinet meeting he quoted Isiah 1.18 - Come, let us reason together.

We didn't always agree on every topic but we did discuss subjects without calling each other names we couldn't later apologize for. What a wonderful goal for our leaders today.

I predict the political party that tries its best to follow this line of reasoning will profit the most this November. We deserve no less.

Saturday, December 12, 2009

Thankful For A Brother While Remembering A Band Of Brothers

Twenty-four years ago this morning I was having breakfast in the Legislative Plaza in Nashville when word came that a C-130 crashed over the Atlantic with a load of soldiers aboard.

My brother, Tim, was due back from a deployment in Germany that week and the fear was obvious to my breakfast mates - including my boss, Tennessee Secretary of State Gentry Crowell.

In a fog, I went back to my office and wondered whether I should call my folks and nail down when Tim was due back or just wait for more details. The odds of my brother being a part of this news was slim but you never know.

Just as I decided to call my parents to ask about Tim's status I was told Mr. Crowell was calling me. The second I said, "Yes, sir," Gentry told me my brother was okay. He had gone back to his office and called U.S. Senator Jim Sasser for any news. Sasser already had the news before it had been released to the press and he passed on to Mr. Crowell.

The plane was carrying 248 troops from Ft. Campbell and all were presumed dead.

My personal relief was instantly replaced with the horror of losing so many men who were from my hometown of Clarksville.

My prayer today is one of thanks - again - for sparing my brother's life.

For the 248 souls who died in that flight from Gander, Newfoundland I also give thanks for their sacrifice.

The horror of that morning lives on for the families of the men who died that morning and I pray that they may find peace.

Sunday, November 15, 2009

My Daughter's Health Scare And U.S. Healthcare

My daughter, Carly, broke her neck last May in a car crash.

That she survived was miraculous. The second vertebra she fractured in three places protects the portion of the spinal cord which controls breathing. Her neurologist said most fatalities involving broken necks are due to second vertebra fractures.

As luck would have it she was knocked out when the speeding driver hit her car broadside as she turned into the oncoming lane. If she had moved before paramedics stabilized her she most likely would have died.

After two nights in the hospital she was sent home in a neck brace for three months of assisted care and the ugly discomfort that entails. Carly was prescribed a low dose of valium and Tylenol which she was able to stop taking within a week.

Her accident happened just after her finals; she was back in her own apartment - without the brace - before classes began in August.

She was covered by her mom's company's group policy. Medical bills were paid after co-payments and deductables. Everything seems beyond great until you look into the not too distant future.

Carly will be dropped from her mom's coverage six months after she graduates. Few, if any, insurance companies will ever cover her.

An Associated Press article I read in The Tennessean over the weekend showed an individual with a spinal cord injury lucky enough to be offered coverage faced premiums of about $1,600 per month; anything related to the preexisting condition will not be covered.

I wonder how many ailments can be tied to central nervous system trauma?

The existing system of providing healthcare in the United States is clearly broken. Do we care enough to fix this problem?

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

First Day Memories Of First Grade

My first day of school was in September 1965. I remember my mom driving me the mile or so from our house on Allenwood Drive to the fairly new Barksdale Elementary School on Madison Street in Clarksville.

I posed for the obligatory picture in front of the school entrance in my yellow short-sleeved shirt and black slacks. Then we entered the building which became my home away from home for the next six years. We found our way to the gymnasium where a lady asked me my name and then we entered the noisy gym where first graders were congregating before room assignments.

The principal, Albert E. Alcock, made brief comments and introduced the first grade teachers: Mrs. Morrison, Mrs. Edmondson, Mrs. Council, and Mrs. Head. (If anyone reading this could let me know of any errors I would be obliged). I believe the names were read alphabetically and as our names were called we were to come forward and form a line behind our new teacher.

When it was my turn, I was called to Mrs. Martha Edmondson's class. After the roll, we began the first of thousands of single-file trips down the hall to our new classrooms. The desks were also arranged alphabetically so as we entered the first kid in got the first desk and so on until we all were seated.

I was amazed that the upper right corner of my desk already had my name taped in big letters. How did they know? My seat mate to my left was one of the cutest little girls in the world - Martha Murphy (now Davis and a facebook friend). She had lived five or six houses down the street from me but had moved a couple of years before first grade.

John Wood, Lucy Rogers (Goad), and Libba Watson (Crook) were some of the other classmates. Mrs. Martha was a very sweet older lady who was near retirement in 1965. I have only very vague memories of her other than to say she was about the most perfect first grade teacher a kid could have.

One of the best memories of first grade was we had a milk break and nap near the end of the school day. It was during one of those naps I wiggled out my first tooth! I was looking at Martha who was also awake and I held it out to show her my prize. We grinned and kept quiet lest trouble were to befall us.

The classrooms for first grade had bathrooms attached and we had to raise our hand with a one or two finger symbol to signal what business was to be done.

The highlight of the school year was field day. We brought lunch from home and had organized competitions and enjoyed a day long recess.

One of my facebook friends, Laughrie Bryant (Tucker), is now a kindergarten teacher at Barksdale. She wrote about field day a couple of months ago and I was taken back those forty-plus years to Barksdale and the happy days we spent there on Madison Street in the late 1960s.

Birthday Greetings!

Happy Birthdays to my father-in-law Roger Knott, my mother-in-law Ann Burt, and my brother Tim Nelson!

Thursday, July 30, 2009

Monday, July 20, 2009

Two Friends Helping Each Other Cope

In the fall of 2002 I had the good fortune of meeting a 13 year-old-boy named Charles Pillow. He was shy at first, obviously very bright with a great smile. I had been recruited by my neighbor, Tam, to spend a couple of hours a week to help Charles study and be his friend. Truth be told, the previous year had rocked me to the point to where I needed Charles more than he needed me.

As the weeks wore on we covered the typical ground of an 8th grade curriculum: American history (a cinch and joy for me - a history minor); English - reading, writing, parts of speech and sentence diagramming (helping him write was fun for me, the later tasks were nerve wracking because an English major should breeze through the technical rules - not me, I miss editors; Science - surprisingly fun; Math - mostly pre-algebra (I loved algebra in school and was very thankful to have been able to pick it up without having to ask a real teacher).

All in all I felt pride in knowing I could pass the 8th grade again and Charles really didn't need me to pass the 8th grade either. He would ask me a question and I would say, "I don't know, Charles, let's look it up." My best help was teaching him how to rely on himself to find the answer by himself. We also spent time in whispered conversation about rappers such as Snoop, 50-cent and Eminem. These talks were clandestine because Charles wasn't supposed to be listening to rap and we were meeting in the fellowship hall of his church. He thought it was funny that I knew these guys and their music. I enjoyed watching him learn and watching him smile.

By the beginning of the 2003 school year my mobility issues had reached the point that I did not need to be behind the wheel so my tutoring days ended. As you would expect - we did not stay in touch but I would get the occasional update from Tam. Out of the blue he called one afternoon when I really needed a good surprise.

"Mr. Nelson," the deep voice boomed.

"Yes," I replied.

"This is Charles," he said.
"Charles - who?" I was drawing a blank.

"Aw, man, you know - Charles Pillow!"

It was with great pride he told me about playing cornerback for his high school team - Hunters Lane, his good grades, his girlfriend(s), "Aw, you know," he explains. He gave me his plans for college and brought the conversation to his reason for calling, "I just called to say, 'Thanks, you know, for working with me back then'." I told Charles it was my pleasure and I meant it. I told Charles he could call me anytime and we hung up.

The next spring an invitation to Charles' graduation came in the mail. I wrote him a note and enclosed the best gift you can give the new graduate - cash. Again I thought back on our time together and smiled to think of his development and my tiny role in helping him by being his friend.

A few months ago, my phone rang and it was Charles again. He was doing well with his classes but the pressure of school and the high cost of living had him debating whether to switch schools so he could stay at home and commute rather than strain to survive life on his own and handle greater debt later. Tough choices a lot of young people are facing today. I gave him my best advice and hoped I had helped but I could sense he was having a tough time.

Last week, Tam emailed me that Charles was awaiting exploratory surgery after going to the emergency room with severe abdominal pain. The anxiety mounted as no word came until the next morning when Tam emailed the news that an eight hour exploratory surgery yielded intestinal blockages and the removal of a dead appendix.

After five days Charles was released from the hospital yesterday, July 20th, and faces a lengthy rehab at home. I've called and talked to his mom and sent him a card and would like to ask my friends to also send Charles a "Get Well Soon," message if you can. It would make his day to get some surprise greetings from strangers and anything I can do to promote this young man's happiness and well being makes my day.

Please send a card to: Charles Pillow, 3824 Northbrook Drive, Nashville, TN 37207